After teaching, using, and writing about CBT and DBT for decades, I realized that I’ve never done a dedicated blog post on them. I do have several chapters in my book but I wanted to focus more on the way they can be used for college students and what parents can do to help.
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The Fallacy of “They’re Just Stressed”
Every November, parents call therapists or campus counseling centers saying some version of:
“My son’s just overwhelmed… I think he needs to talk to someone.”
And then comes the alphabet soup: CBT, DBT, ACT, EMDR. You nod politely and Google them later.
Here’s the reality: CBT and DBT are not therapy fads — they are the gold standards in behavioral science for college-age anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation. But the differences — and how therapists are trained to use them — matter enormously for results.
Let’s break down what actually happens in these sessions, how long it takes, and what outcomes parents can realistically expect. Part 1 is focused on CBT and Part 2 is about DBT.
Part I: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) — Rewiring Thought, Behavior, and Momentum
What It Is (and Isn’t)
CBT — Cognitive Behavioral Therapy — was developed by Dr. Aaron Beck in the 1960s. It’s built on one deceptively simple idea:
“What we think affects how we feel, and how we feel affects what we do.”
CBT therapists are trained — through graduate-level psychology or counseling programs and postgraduate certification in evidence-based interventions — to help clients identify distorted thought patterns, experiment with new behaviors, and measure results.
Training involves coursework, supervised clinical hours, and ongoing consultation — not a weekend certification. For licensure, CBT clinicians typically complete 3,000+ supervised hours and often additional CBT-specific supervision with cognitive-behavioral supervisors or accredited organizations such as the Beck Institute or the Academy of Cognitive Therapy.
What a CBT Session Looks Like
Forget couches and free association — CBT is structured and data-driven. A typical 50-minute session looks like this:
- Mood check-in and homework review: The therapist asks, “What’s the situation that triggered distress this week?”
- Cognitive restructuring: They identify a distorted thought (e.g., “If I fail this exam, I’ll never recover”) and test it against facts. There’s often a huge gap between their perception and their reality.
- Behavioral experiment: Together they design a small, measurable challenge — like studying for 30 minutes, tracking anxiety before and after.
- Skill reinforcement: Homework — yes, therapy has homework — solidifies the new habit. For my work with students, I also include podcast interviews, YouTube videos, and audiobooks that help reinforce what we’re working on.
Think of CBT as mental fitness training: you do reps (thought logs, exposures, journaling) to strengthen cognitive muscle.
Duration and Outcomes
CBT is short-term and goal-oriented. Most college-age clients do 12–20 sessions over 3–5 months (basically a semester), though some extend longer for complex conditions.
Empirical outcomes (meta-analyses, NIMH data, and large college mental health studies). Here are the rates of typical improvement for different diagnoses:
- Anxiety disorders: 60–75% show clinically significant improvement.
- Depression: ~50–65% improve markedly, often equal to or exceeding antidepressant results.
- Panic disorder and OCD: Response rates often exceed 70% with exposure-based CBT.
- Substance use (mild–moderate): CBT reduces relapse by teaching trigger awareness and coping planning.
In short: CBT works — if you do the work.
Parent Application: How to Support CBT for College Students
- Normalize “therapy homework.” Ask, “What’s one small thing you practiced this week?” — not “Are you better yet?”
- Fund consistency. Paying for 6 sessions isn’t enough. The median dropout rate for college students is 35% — remove financial or logistical friction so your student can complete the full protocol.
- Model cognitive flexibility. Admit when your own thinking is distorted (“I overreacted to that grade email”) — that models growth.
- Ask about CBT-based campus programs. Many universities offer group CBT for anxiety, sleep, or perfectionism. These are high-ROI interventions.
Part II: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) — Regulating Emotion, Building Tolerance, Finding Balance
What It Is
DBT — Dialectical Behavior Therapy — was created by Dr. Marsha Linehan in the 1980s to treat borderline personality disorder, but it’s since become a powerhouse for emotion regulation, chronic anxiety, impulsivity, and substance use. It’s called dialectical because it holds two opposing truths at once:
“I am doing the best I can, and I can do better.”
That tension — acceptance and change — is the heartbeat of DBT.
How Therapists Are Trained
DBT training is rigorous. Clinicians complete 40–80 hours of intensive training, often through the Linehan Institute or Behavioral Tech, followed by 1–2 years of supervised DBT consultation. A “full DBT” therapist must master:
- Individual therapy
- Skills group facilitation
- Phone coaching (real-time crisis coaching)
- Consultation team participation (for therapist accountability)
It’s not DIY therapy — it’s a coordinated clinical system. It’s also very difficult for typical therapists in private practice to actually uphold all of these aspects.
What a DBT Program Looks Like
DBT is typically delivered in four skill modules over 6-12 months:
- Mindfulness: Learning to observe thoughts and feelings without judgment.
- Distress Tolerance: Crisis survival skills — how to not make it worse.
- Emotion Regulation: Identifying emotions, labeling them, and using opposite action to shift them.
- Interpersonal Effectiveness: Communication and boundary-setting skills that preserve relationships.
Students attend weekly individual therapy, weekly group skills training, and may have as-needed phone coaching during moments of crisis (“I want to drink tonight — what do I do?”). There are fantastic workbooks I’ve used over the years, but most college students won’t use them. Instead, apps and biometric tracking are my go-to resources for between sessions.
Duration and Outcomes
DBT takes longer than CBT — most full protocols run 6–12 months, but many young adults see meaningful change in 8–10 weeks if skills are practiced consistently.
Outcome data (systematic reviews, SAMHSA, Linehan Institute):
- Borderline Personality Disorder: ~50% reduction in self-harm and suicide attempts.
- Substance Use Disorders: 2–3x higher treatment retention than non-DBT therapies.
- Major Depression & Anxiety: Moderate-to-large effect sizes in symptom reduction.
- College student studies: DBT skills groups reduce emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, and dropouts by 25–30%.
DBT is less about “curing” and more about equipping — teaching skills for the moments when emotions go nuclear.
Parent Application: How to Support DBT for College Students
- Learn the language. Ask your student, “Which DBT skill helped you today — mindfulness, opposite action, or distress tolerance?” You’re reinforcing their new toolkit.
- Validate before problem-solving. Instead of “Why would you do that?”, try “I can see how overwhelmed you felt.” DBT thrives on emotional validation.
- Model mindfulness. If you’re texting at dinner, don’t expect your student to meditate. Model presence.
- Ask about campus DBT groups. Many universities offer “DBT Skills for Emotional Regulation” groups under counseling services — these are excellent for high-functioning students with intense emotions.
When to Choose CBT vs. DBT
| Situation | Better Fit | Why |
| Academic anxiety, performance fears, perfectionism | CBT | Targets distorted thinking and procrastination. |
| Chronic emotional storms, impulsivity, relational chaos | DBT | Teaches distress tolerance and emotion regulation. |
| Depression with negative self-talk | CBT | Cognitive restructuring corrects pessimistic thinking. |
| Substance use with self-destructive coping | DBT | Combines acceptance, accountability, and skills training. |
| General stress and burnout | CBT (short-term) | 8–12 sessions of skill-based coping often suffice. |
The ROI for Parents
Therapy is an investment — and affluent parents should think like investors.
The median private-session cost: $175–$250/hour. But ROI shows up in retention, graduation, and employability. College students who complete evidence-based therapy have higher persistence rates, better GPAs, and lower risk behaviors.
CBT and DBT are not indulgences — they’re preventative maintenance for executive function, emotion regulation, and self-efficacy.
Final Word from Rob: Blunt…Compassion
If your kid breaks a bone, you go to orthopedics. If their mind fractures under stress, you go to therapy. It’s the same category of intervention — except one fixes the asset that drives every other part of their life: their brain. Don’t rescue — scaffold. Fund therapy, normalize it, then step back and let your student own the work. You’re not paying for comfort; you’re investing in competence.
Action Steps for Parents (Today)
- Ask your student if their campus offers CBT or DBT-based therapy or groups.
- If private, find a licensed therapist trained in CBT (Beck Institute, ACT) or DBT (Linehan Institute).
- Offer to cover 12–20 sessions minimum.
- Check in weekly with empathy, not control: “How are you applying what you’re learning?”
- Practice your own mindfulness or CBT-style reframing at home.
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